Wedding Attendants

Wedding Attendants

Now choosing your wedding attendants can be the most important part of planning your wedding.

There are a few things to consider before you even begin to start asking people.

As being asked to be a wedding attendant is a special honor and there are responsibilities that go with it, you need to have a good idea of what you wish each attendant to do for you, how they will be involved.

If is customary to ask your brothers and sisters, close relatives and best friends.

As there will be costs involved for the wedding attendants then this has to be considered too, things like the wedding attire, travel, accommodation, the pre-wedding parties like the wedding shower, bachelorette/bachelor nights.

You need your attendants to be reliable, to know you can depend on them. This is how you will have a stress free day. No matter how lovely some people are and how well your relationship with them is, some people just have very busy lives with maybe small children, work commitments etc. When you explain what you will need from them leading up to the day and on the wedding day, they will realize how it may not work for them.

They can still be involved in some way, like helping at the ceremony by handing out the programs or ushering guests to their seats, maybe a reading and helping with the guests seating at the reception. There is always much to do, so if the costs are too much for a close friend or your friend has too busy a life, then there will be a way to include them and make them feel special.

Choosing your wedding attendants can be a very delicate operation so you don’t want to tread on any toes or have friends getting upset. Let them know “you” won’t be offended if they can’t be your attendant, you understand their situation.

There is another thing to consider and that is, don’t choose your attendants too soon. You need to have a really good idea of what you want at your wedding. Some close friends or even family, can be very dominating and while it is your wedding, they may try to influence you to what they would like at their wedding. So always keep in mind, it is “your” wedding not your wedding attendants.

Something else to consider is how the bridal party will look in the photographs. Your wedding photographer can help you there. So when you meet with the person who is going to take care of your wedding photos, ask a few questions about the way they will be positioning the wedding attendants for the photos.

Carmel Baird is a freelance writer and publisher of wedding information and resources at Creative-Wedding-Planning.com

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